Waiting: the hard part

Okay guys, I know I already posted once today, but I need to post again.

Remember how I was saying to wait on the Lord?

I'm still saying we should do that, and I'm also going to say this:

Don't. Give. Up.

I know, it's really tiring to wait around. And when you think you like someone, it's even harder.

Because I know, you're going to be all like,

"Is he the one?"

"How do I know?"

"What if he is? Is it okay for me to like him?"

"What if he isn't? How do I stop myself from liking him?"

Those are all incredibly valid questions.

And here's the thing.

I don't know the answer.

When you're still waiting around for your special man, how are you supposed to know when you've found him? He might not be the first guy who confesses his love to you, or even the first guy to propose.

I honestly don't know what to say, because if I have found the special someone for me, I could probably stare him straight in the face and not know it.

I know it's a question that we all ask ourselves at times, "How do I know if I love him or just like him?"

Truth is, I don't know the answer, but I guess a good way to get started is this (at least for ladies):

1) Could you see yourself respecting him, even when he is being an idiot? Let's just face it, guys can be idiots and quite often women can see things in a way that men can't, and therefore sometimes make better decisions, but part of loving someone is being able to respect them.

2) Could you see yourself obeying them, no matter what? Sarah obeyed Abraham and it could have gotten her killed. Twice. And she still obeyed him. God blessed her and protected her for her obedience.

3) Could you see yourself taking care of him, even when he is getting on your nerves? I once saw this video on Youtube that illustrates what I'm talking about. Go watch it then come back here.

----------------->Watch this, then come back.

Could you take care of him, even when he is acting like this guy?

I think if you could actually do all these things, then yeah, I would say that was love.

For us ladies, it's not difficult to 'love' someone, as in be romantic. We can sit and watch a sappy love movie with our darling faster than most people could blink. But the big thing is we tend to not respect.

Don't deny it.

You know it's true.

Anyway, I don't have all the answers on this subject, because I am waiting on the Lord to bring me someone too. I don't know if I've ever 'fallen in love' for real, or anytime I've thought I've liked someone it's just been a crush. I don't know, I'm only 17 and don't have enough life experience to say.

But I do know what God says, and that is "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."-Ephesians 5:22 NIV.

And I also know that it's hard for wives to submit, because I've watched it happen before, where a woman thinks that she knows best and then back-talks her husband, or ridicules him, or just flat out ignores him.

And I also know that this isn't how a healthy relationship works, and not just between and husband and wife, but in any relationship.

You have to show that you respect your friends, don't you? Otherwise, they get fed up with you and stop talking to you.

I personally think that the love of your life should not just be your husband or fiance or boyfriend or whatever, but I think that he should also be your best friend.

Because your best friend is the person that you want to spend all of your time with, it's the person that you want to tell everything to, it's the person that you want to and do share experiences with, it's the person that, even if you fight, you can always make up with and move on like nothing ever happened because you adore each other so much that you won't care in a few hours anyway.

Like I said, I am only 17 and do not have enough experience to tell you exactly how you will feel or anything when you find your prince, I only know what I've read in Scripture and what I've seen between my parents and other couples. I can't even say what I've read or watched on televisions, because that is quite often an unrealistic view of things, mostly just because of the situations that bring the couples together.

But I do know this: waiting on the Lord is the best thing that you can do, because trust me, I'm speaking from experience, when you think you know what you are doing and you jump ahead into a relationship, all that is going to happen is a breakup and then you feel really stupid.

So yes, I am learning as much from my previous post as any of you, because I can tell you that it was not my idea to write that. I don't really want to wait on God, I have my own agenda and I want to follow it as fast as I can, but I know that I can't, because all that will get me is trouble.

So ladies, I am with you when I say to wait. I am with you when I say that it is hard. I am with you in this, and we can do this.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."-Philippians 4:13

He means ALL things. And I personally think that waiting on this sort of thing is much harder than trying to move a mountain or fly, don't you?

I hope that my posts today have encouraged you to wait on the Lord, even though it's hard. I know it has helped me to share this.

Cheers!