Especially attention from the male gender.
Especially if it's a certain person from the male gender who you really kinda more than just friends like.
Don't try and deny it, it's the way we are.
I do it too. I love it when a guy pays me a compliment. Sure, I like it when other girls pay me a compliment too, but not in the same way.
The other day I was thinking about my favorite movies and television shows (I won't go into all of them, but here are a few):
X-files was one of my favorite for a while, not really because of the aliens, that part annoyed me, or the government conspiracies, that just made me paranoid, not even really for the monsters, but I loved it because I loved to watch the interaction between Mulder and Scully. One of my favorite episodes is my favorite because they finally kiss. Or any of the episodes where they danced or flirted or even looked like they might flirt.
Doctor Who is another one of my favorite. 10 and Rose were one of my favorite couples for a long time, because I loved Rose so much. But then came 11 and River. And any episode that River is in is my favorite. The flirting scenes are just so cute, and every time they kiss each other my heart melts. The monsters and the aliens and all that stuff is cool too, and the show is hilarious, but really, River and 11 are the main reason I watch the show anymore, I love them so much.
Or Pirates of the Caribbean, one of my absolute favorite movies. Why? Because of Will and Elisabeth (don't get me wrong, I adore Captain Jack too). Their romance makes me want to cry, Will is just so sweet. I actually don't like Elisabeth much and think that Will is waaaaaaay too good for her, but I adore him, he's just so sweet and would do anything for her.
Even though it ends tragically, one of my all time favorite love stories is between Anakin and Padme. I know that he ends up killing her, but it breaks him and that's why he becomes Darth Vader and the first three movies in the Star Wars saga are my favorite because of the unfolding romance between them. I literally cry every time at the end of Revenge of the Sith, because I know what it going to happen and my heart breaks every time, because the two of them were just so in love and then tragedy ripped them apart.
The list of movies and tv shows I love is endless, so I will leave it there.
Even in books, like the Hunger Games, my favorite parts are when Katniss starts to really love Peeta, and I think that Peeta is one of the sweetest book characters ever written.
Do you see what I mean? I love all of these stories for the love story within them. I love the flirting and the sweetness and all that stuff. I know of course that none of the situations would ever play out like this for me, but the thought of them makes me feel happy.
Of course, the examples I used are of stories that are so outlandish that we know that this could never happen to us in this way. I mean, come on, I doubt that I will ever be kissing my husband while standing on a beach, waiting for him to get into his boat and sail away into the land of the dead and start his new job of harvesting the bodies of people who died at sea. At least, I hope that never happens to me.
But it's something that I think about often, how would a romance play out for me?
We all do it, come up with scenarios that we hope to one day happen, maybe not with anyone in particular in mind, but come on girls, we all know exactly how we want to be proposed to. And who hasn't daydreamed about her marriage one day?
There's nothing wrong with wanting the attention and affection from the guy of your dreams, God made us to want it. But the problem comes when you try and force the romance.
What I mean by that is this: you know when you have a crush and you're sure that you are going to marry that guy? And you wait and wait and wait and pray and hope that he will ask you out? You hope that when you are thinking about him, he is thinking about you?
So what do we do? We go and throw ourselves at this guy and say every flirty thing that we can without seeming too flirty and hope that he flirts back.
There are several problems with this.
1. If you are too young to be married, then you really have no business trying to get your crush to ask you out in the first place. Where would all your hard work lead you if you are only 12? or 13? or even 16? Nowhere. It will just end in a breakup.
2. If the guy didn't like you, with all that flirting and stuff, he is either going to a) hope that you move to a different state and leave him alone or b) he's going to notice that you like him and either like you back or just take advantage of the situation (I'm not saying all guys would do that, but let's just face the facts, if a girl is willing to give a guy anything he wants, he is likely going to accept that without a problem).
3) Say the guy does like you. Is he going to think that maybe you are just a flirty person? Sometimes we change who we are, just a little bit, to get a guy to like us, and then if he liked us before, he might notice that we aren't who we were and think we are fake.
4) God already shipped you with someone, and when he does it, it's cannon. You don't have to worry about catching your future husband's attention because God already made sure that you will have his attention one day.
When God sets something in motion, no power on Earth or in Heaven can stop it from happening. So when God decided he wants you to be with someone, it will happen and nobody is going to get in your way.
"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Mark 10:9 NIV
So basically what I am saying is this:
Us ladies love attention.
Whatever man pays that attention to us becomes our new favorite person.
We will use whatever means necessary to get more attention.
We fall out of following God's plan for us when we try to force a situation to go the way we want it to.
It ends in heartbreak and failure unless it lines up with God's plan.
So ladies, be careful. You are a very special person and someone out there is waiting to find you. And one day they will. But every man who pays attention to you isn't going to be your special someone. Because the truth is, you don't have to be drop dead gorgeous for a man to start hitting on you, it's gonna happen no matter what state your hair is in or how much makeup you are wearing.
But the one who's out there waiting for you will fall in love with you, not for the amount of flirting you put into it, or how mush skin you show, they will fall in love with you. The real you. They will see your smile and it will light up their world. Your laugh will send chills up their spine. The way you talk will make them melt. Your personality will be the most wonderful thing they have ever encountered.
So don't try and grab attention from every man, just because you love attention. Wait, and one day you will have all the attention and affection and sappy-sweet, makes-you-wanna-cry, most epic love story you have ever had the privilege to see. And it will be yours.
"Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord."-Psalms 27:14 NIV
Be patient, one day, your prince will come.
Cheers!
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