I've been watching Scooby Doo: Mystery Incorporated with my sister. It's been too rainy to go outside, and so foggy that we are too sleepy to do anything else.
I don't know how many of you thought this, but I've always thought that Velma and Shaggy would end up dating or something, because they were always together.
Well, finally, after Scooby Doo has been on since 1969, in the 2010 remake, they started dating.
I was all excited at first, because this is something that I've thought should happen for a long time, but then as the show went on, Scooby became more and more jealous of the time Shaggy was spending with Velma, even though they were trying to hide it from Scooby.
Eventually, Velma and Scooby try and make Shaggy pick between them. Shaggy ends up picking Scooby, because he says that he isn't ready for a girlfriend yet, and Scooby is his best friend.
I haven't finished watching the whole show, but ever since that episode, Velma has been angry at both Scooby and Shaggy. She's mad a Scooby because he got Shaggy instead of her, but she's mad at Shaggy because she still likes him, but he does't return her affection, and he doesn't want a girlfriend.
Back when the original Scooby Doo was on, Daphne and Fred were dating (I suppose, I don't know that it every actually said they were dating, just that Daphne had a big crush on Fred), so they would always go off together when they split up to look for clues, leaving Velma, Shaggy, and Scooby to hunt for clues together.
Back then, Velma and Shaggy were just friends, and in every remake of the show since then until recently, they have been just friends. Scooby and Shaggy are best friends, but really Velma is their best friend too.
Even in the remakes where it wasn't the whole gang, but just Shaggy and Scooby, Velma often made appearances in those as well, with very few exceptions. She was just best friends with Shaggy, she watched out for him, worked with him, and while she got annoyed often with him, she stayed with him.
I liked it better back then. Don't get me wrong, I like the new ones too, but I like it for other reasons. Quite often when they get to the drama between Velma and Shaggy, I just get frustrated. The tension between the two of them is putting strain on the entire gang, making is hard for them to function as a team.
Shaggy really just wants things to be the way they were, where him, Velma, and Scooby all got along and worked together. But after they dated, things will never be the same between them again.
That happens a lot when dating occurs. You think you love someone, but when they decide they don't want the commitment, or they find someone else, or they just get tired of you, or whatever, the breakup always makes it hard not only on the ones who dated, but on their mutual friends.
I personally think dating is a bad idea. Think about this:
When you date a person, you put your best foot forward. You never make jokes that you think the other person might not laugh at, you only tell stories that make yourself seem better, you never do anything that might embarrass you, you only talk in a way that you think will make the other person like you better.
They don't know the real you. Sure, they might know what your favorite color is, they might know what foods you like, or even what your favorite television show is, but those are all things you can find out about a person by filling out a questionnaire or the 'about me' on someone's facebook or twitter accounts.
Quite often (not all the time, but a lot of the time), dating becomes more about the physical relationship. You spend so much time making out that you never get a chance to just hang out. Even though you might know weird little things about the person you are dating, you don't really know much more about them then what you found out when you first started dating, or before you were dating. You end up just being with that person because you like the way they make you feel. Flirting becomes how you talk, and then you know more about how many innuendos that person can slip into a sentence than actually about the things that make them happy.
Don't get me wrong, there has to be a way to get to know other people of the opposite gender, otherwise you might just blindly go into a marriage and then find out that the person you married is a jerk.
I personally believe in friends before dating. Or better yet, best friends before dating. Or even better, just best friends. Why would you have to date someone if you already know that you love them?
Think about your best friend.
You know who their favorite character in every television show they watch is. You know which people they dislike out of all the people they know. You know what makes them happy. You know what makes them sad. You know what they like about certain people. You know how to make them laugh.
You also have memories with that person. You've gone places with your best friend, you've seen things, you've done stuff that maybe you'll regret, but you also done things that will stay with you forever as one of the best times of your life.
Your best friend is the person that you never want to live without, and you know that one day, if you ever have to part, you'll be devastated.
Wouldn't it make more sense if you were best friends instead of boyfriend/girlfriend? Dating is usually temporary, best friends is forever.
I have a best friend, who is a girl. We spend a lot of time together, so we know when something is wrong with the other one.
We also happen to have a lot of the same friends, because we introduce our friends to each other. We both generally like the same people, so when we see those people, we both tend to hang out with them. We don't ignore each other for the sake of another person, we all hang out, as a group.
Dating is often exclusive, just two people going out together, ignoring all their other friends and only being with each other. Best friends are able to still include all their other friends, while still being with each other.
I know that the rest of the world will continue to date, and I also know that my 'best friends' idea will probably get me left behind a lot. Because lets face it, when you are best friends with someone, they quite often see through you, not really realizing that you are standing right in front of them, and go off chasing someone else.
It's like in October Baby, when the main boy and main girl are best friends, and have been for a long time, but he has a girlfriend. He still tells his best friend everything, and they still talk all the time, but because she is his best friend, he kind of sees right though her through most of the movie.
Or take Taylor Swift's music video, You Belong With Me. She is neighbors with a boy, who is also her best friend. She understands him better than his girlfriend, because she knows him better. She gets all his jokes, while his girlfriend just gets annoyed because she doesn't understand.
It happens often, because when you are best friends with a person, you are often friend zoned.
But don't give up, because God has a Master Plan, and no matter what, if two people are meant to be together, nothing can tear them apart.
So if you are someone like me, who doesn't think that dating is the way to go, and you would rather be best friends with someone, even if they start chasing after other people, leaving you still just their best friend, don't give up. If you really are their best friend, then one day they will realize that they can't live without you.
I know it's hard, when everyone is running around dating each other and you are kind of just left standing there, the ever loyal best friend, but God has a plan.
Good luck friends, I hope that if you decide that dating is not for you, that you can hold on to that, and know that there are others, who have found love, that didn't have to date around to find it.
Cheers!
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